Divorce is not for Sissies

I thought I would write about my own personal experiences. These are my thoughts and opinions. 

Getting divorced is a painful and draining process. One person feels they got the raw deal. It's even harder when one of the parties cheated. If the man cheated the woman involved will do anything in her power to make her husband pay dearly for his indiscretion. 

Kids are often used as pawns in divorce proceedings. As parents we need to remember they never asked to be in this world. I would recommend doing the course Children in Between , this will help with ensuring your children's well being.  

In order for the minor children not to get used as pawns  approach the courts and apply for an Interim Maintenance order. In South Africa it's called a Rule 43 - High Court or a rule 58 in the magistrate's court. Either parent can apply for the order the order will include access to your children.

In a divorce the only people who benefit are the attorneys. Try and keep it amicable and save yourself a lot of money. In South Africa you are entitled to represent yourself. This can help with keeping costs down.

I was the person who asked for the divorce, my ex husband was travelling for work all the time. The year I left him, he was away from me for a 186 days and I felt like I was a single parent. 

Even though I left him, the hardest and most painful thing was when he found new love. This is when most of our arguments started, His girlfriend wanted to be a major part in my children's life. As a mom it made me sad as I thought he was trying to show me that I could be replaced. 

There is no way that could happen, no matter what   I will always be my kids only mommy, but they are loved just as much by their stepmom. She wasn't trying to replace me, she just wanted to make her own home a happy home  where my children would feel loved and wanted, 

4.08 in 1000 people get divorced, You are not alone!